Mel S. on October 12, 2016
I have been at my current position for two years, and I love my job, however, for personal reasons, I am leaving. I was not actively looking, and an opportunity came to me from a trusted friend. He offered me the position on the spot and I accepted, resigning the next day. My employer is shocked and initially wanted to counter, and now is angry that I did not give him a warning I might leave. Maybe I am old school, but isn't this a given? The new position is double my salary, closer to home, currently I commute 30 minutes. I do not have to work nights and weekends, currently, I do. My boss knows my personal situation, and that more money and closer to home is a great option for taking care of my son. We do have a good relationship, so in hindsight, perhaps I could have told him these are things I wanted, however, there is no position in our company that exists with those options. When my former colleague said she was looking, he treated her terribly. He and I have a better relationship, but still, how can I be certain that telling him I might be open to leaving would be a good decision? I feel like I'm being ousted and looked at negatively. I have told my boss I didn't think to tell him because I was not actively looking. I also gave two weeks and said I would give 100% and be available for assistance after I leave. What can I do at this point? I feel horrible, and I am not sure these feelings are warranted.