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As a cancer survivor, I do feel strong and proud and grateful. But as a divorced mother of a 16 year old and a 9 year old and currently out of work I cry myself to sleep every night. I feel like a failure. How is it that I could conquer a beast like breast cancer and not be able to find employment? I want to get back to work, but I know I am going to have some obvious limitations. I still don't have all of my strength back, I have chronic pain, (which I can handle) and this darn "chemo brain" has me frazzled. If there is any way that you could help me or give me advice I would greatly appreciate it.

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  • Judi Swedek

    Judi Swedek on Sep 29, 2010

    Career Coach Comment:

    Hi Jenni,

    I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I personally know those feelings and have been where you are. Please know you are not a failure.

    Let me ask you, how are you going about finding a job? If you have been applying for jobs online, you will have limited success. Ask youself what you can do to expand your range of search activities. How much time are you spending networking? Networking is the way that most are finding their jobs today, in fact some say up to 80% of jobs are found that way. Start with LinkedIn.com to reconnect with people you have worked with. Go to your local unemployment office as well as the chamber of commerce to find networking groups. The amazing thing about networking is that being among people helps us feel better about ourselves in addition to opening doors of opportunity.

    Write out weekly goals, including self care goals, so that you feel a sense of accomplishment each week. Tap into the amazing, strong, and proud woman that you are, and remember to be kind to yourself.

    Let me know your thoughts...and how networking and goal setting might feel for you.

    Warmest regards, Judith

  • Judi Swedek

    Judi Swedek on Sep 30, 2010

    Career Coach Comment:

    Hi Jenni, this is great news! I will send positive energy and prayers your way.

  • Jenni S.

    Jenni S. on Sep 30, 2010

    Thank you for your input Judi. I had 2 interviews today that actually went pretty ok. I am also looking into the other professional networking sites that you suggested. Thank you again and God bless!

  • Debby B.

    Debby B. on Nov 4, 2010

    Jenni - you are one tough cookie. I am an oncology nurse and know getting "back to normal" is hard work. When I'm not doing my nursing job, I'm a Mary Kay consultant. It's a wonderful opportunity to work from home. The support from your fellow MK friends is priceless. The education and support from the Company puts you in the right place to be successful. The Company has wonderful values that support faith, family and career. Please let me know if you would like more information. My website: www.marykay.com/dabenjamin

    You are not a failure, you are a survivor!

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